Inner Compassion

Emotions at Work

I was raised to think that emotions were something to be suppressed and controlled, and showing emotion was a sign of weakness, especially at work. Whether it was showing fear or regret or even showing too much happiness or feelings of accomplishment, it was an opening for someone to take advantage of you. But I’m here to tell you that this viewpoint has some serious problems. Namely that emotions are a normal part of the …

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5 Myths of Forgiving Yourself

Are you holding a grudge against yourself? For most of us, holding that grudge feels like anger, disappointment and judgment directed towards our self. That feels awful, huh? Don’t worry, we can do something about it. I’m often given the opportunity to speak about inner compassion. It doesn’t matter where I go, from beautiful churches to the rough and tumble rooms of addiction recovery centers, someone will approach me afterwards because the have heard my …

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What is YOUR present?

My Mom is an expert gift giver. She is on the hunt year-around, carefully thinking about the people she loves, picking out the things she thinks will bring them the most joy. Seeing a loved one open up the perfect present is a reward in and of itself, but sometimes we can get so focused on others and wanting to create a picturesque holiday that we forget to take care of ourselves. In the spirit …

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Be a Compassionate Badass

Compassion is not for the weak. Compassion can be one of the boldest and courageous acts you can take. But don’t worry it comes naturally. Looking into the eyes of someone who is suffering we naturally empathize with the person. This is how we are wired, when we see another suffering we can feel it, and this empathy can motivate us to action. But in our modern world, we are often removed from looking into …

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The Epic Battle

I’m standing at the kitchen sink washing dishes and there is an epic battle going on. I’m fighting with my housemate about how he damaged my car, and he is yelling back at me. I’m very self-righteous and indignant. The problem is, my housemate moved out 2 months ago. THIS epic battle only exists in my head. Oh, but real it is! I’m coming up with eloquent explanations how things should have been said. I’m …

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I ate a muffin out of a vending machine

If you can’t tell by the title, this blog post is about making poor choices. When it comes to taking care of ourselves sometimes we can do a poor job of it. I want to talk about that. For many people eating a muffin out of a vending machine is not that big of a deal (even if it’s not the healthiest choice). But for me, it’s the equivalent of smacking myself in the face …

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Are you living with a jerk?

It’s 6:30 and I’m getting ready for an early coffee meeting. I pull my shirt from the basket of clothes, and I think to myself, “Ugh, I should have taken time to hang up the laundry last night.” I glance into the mirror as I’m leaving the house and say, “Man, I really need to start wearing blush, I look half dead.” It’s not even 7:00am and I’ve already been hard on myself twice. We …

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